Dads Can has a new home

We at Dads Can have been working like busy bee’s to create a new website, which is now live, please pop by and take a look, use, comment etc.

The new site allows us to do a lot more than this one, it has;

a knowledge base, where we have and ever-growing amount of helpful fact sheets and information for Dads, ranging from info about childhood illnesses, childcare, groups, enrolling at school/nursery, pregnancy, the birth and after birth (no, not the placenta- the first few weeks after baby is born), morning sickness etc. etc.

live chat so if you want a conversation or ask questions etc. we are here, (don’t worry its text, not video, so no need to brush your hair before using it),

mailing list, where you can hassle-free receive information to your in-box about all things such as child health, development, to whats going on in your area and free trips etc. (join and you could win prizes!!!)

Links to our YouTube channel, Facebook and Twitter feeds

Remember, regardless of age, gender, parental status and location, we welcome interaction, feedback and suggestions, guest bloggers, articles etc. so please drop by and give us a shout.

Many thanks, Dads Can

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Job Skills Clubs

Brought to you by MACE (Monmouthshire  Adult Community Education) and Monmouthshire County Council

Job Skills Clubs

Drop in for help and support with:

• Creating an email account
• Registering and using Universal Jobmatch
• CV writing
• Search and applying for jobs online
• Covering letters for job applications
• Form filling and letter writing
• Advice on qualifications and available courses

Ring your centre for times and more information:

Abergavenny: Mondays 1.30-3.30
Tel: 01873 851554
Abergavenny Youth & Community Centre, Old Hereford Rd

Caldicot: Friday 9-12
Tel: 01291 426852
Adult & Community Education Centre, The Bungalow (opposite the Leisure Centre entrance), Mill Lane

Chepstow: Friday 9.30-12
Tel: 01291 635154
Boverton House Chepstow Adult & Community Education Centre, Bulwark Road

Monmouth: Thursday 1.30-3.30
Tel: 01600 712822
Overmonnow Family Learning Centre, Victoria Estate

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university of liverpoolHow can we help fathers’ who experienced their baby’s birth as traumatic?Research project

Fathers wanted to take part in research                                                                             I am training to work as a clinical psychologist for the NHS . I am carrying out a study as part of a doctoral degree to explore the experiences of fathers who have had difficulties after attending the birth of their child.

Experiencing or witnessing a traumatic birth can be extremely distressing for both parents; however, most research has focused on the impact on women. We think it is important to learn more about the impact these experiences have on men.

The aim of the study is to understand what makes the experience traumatic and how fathers try to cope with the experience.

We hope that this will help services provide better support for fathers in the future.

What does it involve?                                                                                                            The study involves completing a brief questionnaire online and taking part in a confidential telephone interview. Names are not needed.

To take part in the study you will need to:

  • Be 16 years or older and living with the mother of your child
  • Have attended the birth of your child, within the last five years, and found the experience traumatic
  • Be willing to complete the questionnaire and a telephone interview

If you have experienced the death of your partner or child during childbirth, or your baby was in the neonatal unit for more than 7 days after their birth, the study would not be appropriate for you. However, if you are having difficulties with these experiences, support can be accessed via your GP. The Birth Trauma Association ( also offers support and advice for parents.

How can I find out more?

If you are interested in the study, please email me: and I will send you more information.

This study has been approved by the University of Liverpool

Research Ethics Committee

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timeline of wars

Another funny from Wrong Hands-

Wrong Hands

timeline of wars

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Strawberry Rocks

SImple, little mess and cheap activitiy

Do It And How

Strawberries are the only fruit that has its seeds on the outside!
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These would make cute paperweights or magnets – The how to is HERE

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Sh*t Every New Parent Should Know

Well written and straight to the point- well done Mommy & Daddy’s blog

Mommy & Daddy's Blog

It does not go by so fast. People who tell you “it goes by so fast” do not have babies or small children at home. It goes by so slow. But you know what? That’s good! There’s more room for error! Be grateful.

They’re up all night to get lucky. Because their stomachs are so small, newborns need to eat roughly every two to three hours. This means they wake frequently. This means they wake you frequently. Thankfully, babies do have some good qualities: they smell good, don’t cheat on their taxes and look good in hats.

Sleep deprivation is the worst. It’s awful. It’s revolting. It causes confusion and memory loss. And it physically hurts. It’s like a really bad subway smell on a hot day — but in your brain. That said, blame everything and anything on sleep deprivation for as long as you possibly want.

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Overmonnow Dads Drop in Mon 6th Jan 2014

We would like to bring to your attention our Dads group in Overmonnow, Monmouth, which will take place on Monday’s 10-12pm.

This is free, informal and welcoming. Our project aims to work with as many Dads as possible who are between the ages of 14 & 25, but Dads above that age are welcome to attend to share, gain ideas etc.

If you are thinking of attending, but are unsure, please feel free to ask us questions, gain clarification via phone, text, e-mail, twitter and through this blog. We don’t preach about what you should or shouldnt be doing as a Dad, we wont expect you to talk about yourself (unless you want to then of course you are free to do so), we are there to support Dads, what ever that might mean to you.

We are aware that each person will have different perspectives on fatherhood, and will equally want different things from the project/meetings, have different needs and preferences, and we will look to meet as many of those as possible.

The session is a way for Dads to tell us what it is we should be doing, and going forward we will implement such views so that we are meeting the need/preferences. We will bring refreshments, and have resources such as ideas for crafts and play with your children, and we can also answer any questions you might have about being parent, accessing support etc.

Children are welcome to attend- and of course they remain your responsibility.

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What is positional plagiocephaly?
Positional plagiocephaly/ brachycephaly is when an initially, typically rounded skull shape becomes flattened as a result of skull moulding. It makes the shape of your baby’s head appear flat at the back or side.

What causes this?
Plagiocephaly can be caused by the position of the baby in the womb, but is more commonly seen postnatally due to the positions babies lie in.
The main cause postnatally is the amount of time babies spend lying on their backs and in car seats in their early lives when the bones of their skull are soft and can easily be moulded into a different shape due to pressure of the surface they are resting on.

Positional plagiocephaly is more common recently since the Back to Sleep campaign which advised parents to place their babies on their back to sleep to reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS or cot death). However, babies should always be placed on their back to sleep as the benefits of reducing SIDS far outweigh the risk of developing this benign condition.

What are the symptoms?
There are no symptoms other than the flattened appearance at the back or side of your
babies head. It does not affect your baby’s brain and is a cosmetic condition.
It is very important that if your baby has difficulty turning to either side or tightening of
any muscles in their neck that you see your G.P. or Health Visitor for further advice.

How can plagiocephaly/ brachycephaly be avoided?                                                  To reduce the risk of cot death, babies should always sleep on their backs.                           When your baby is awake, however, you should play with your baby in a variety of position i.e. with your baby lying on either side and on his/her tummy. This avoids the constant pressure on the back of the head and allows for the development of the natural head shape. Babies like to play in a variety of positions and to practise lifting their head when on their tummy.
• Always supervise your baby when they are playing on their tummy. Never let your baby fall asleep on their tummy.
• It is recommended that you change the way your baby’s head turns when they are sleeping by gently turning their head so they are not always lying on the same part of their skull.
• Young babies should only be in car seats when travelling and should spend limited time in bouncy seats which will also cause pressure on the backs of their heads.
Young babies should have regular position changes throughout the day to avoid constant pressure on the back of their head.

What should I do if my baby’s head seems flat?
Most cases of positional plagiocephaly/ brachycephaly can be avoided with the above
positional advice. (It is normal for babies’ heads to be slightly flatter at the back or on one side.) However, if you are concerned that your baby is developing a more noticeable ‘flattened’ head then the current treatment is the same as the repositioning advice given above.                                                                                                                                                        You should also reposition your baby’s head away from the flattened side after he/she has gone to sleep.
However, if you are at all concerned about the shape of your baby’s head then you should
consult with your Health Visitor or GP for further advice.

Further information for parents and NHS staff can be found at:
Great Ormond Street Hospital

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Family mealtime nightmares?

Our family mealtimes are a nightmare, what can I do about it?

Of course, it is important to have realistic expectations about a family meal. When preschoolers first begin to eat at a table there are likely to be spills and messes. This isn’t misbehaviour, just a simple learning curve.                                                                                     Try to stay calm and look for opportunities to praise your child.

Because young children are also easily distracted and find it hard to sit in one place for a long time, 20 to 30 minutes is a good time limit for a main meal.

It is not essential that your child learns to like every dish you serve. If your child is encouraged to eat a variety of foods, they will develop preferences for some foods over others, just as adults do. So there’s no point in insisting they eat a specific vegetable if they will happily eat something else just as nutritious.

Some of the best ways parents can help avoid mealtimes being stressful starts away from the dinner table.

Try to establish a set time and routine for meals so children know when to stop playing and get ready, or when to turn off the television set.

Prevent your child snacking within an hour of a scheduled mealtime. And keep a watch on fluid intake as well. A big glass of milk or juice just before dinner can certainly dampen an appetite.

Some mealtime problems are directly related to the way a parent and child interact at a dinner table. Children may even refuse to eat as a way of getting attention. It is better to set appropriate consequences for such behaviour, stick to those consequences, and praise your child when they eat an acceptable portion of what’s on their plate.

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Build Your Own Robot Free Printable

Over at you will find a great deal of interesting and fun things to do- activities for the children and grownups alike, but the site has some other interesting gems, such as a ‘pondering parent’ section where issues are discussed/shared/written about in a lovely way. Pop over and reap the rewards 🙂 such as the Robot printable found at:

P.S. Check out the printable roads!! I know what I’m doing when I get home today!


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